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The story you are about to hear will shock you, anger you, and inspire you to break free of the negative core beliefs that have been running your life.
Bonnie Kelly, author of True to Your Core: Uncovering the Subconscious Beliefs that Wreak Havoc on Your Life and today’s guest on The SC Sessions, reveals how the traumatic events of childhood become the filters through which we perceive our lives.
These events plant the seeds of our negative beliefs, and our minds can’t help but look for evidence to prove them true.
If you feel unworthy of love, you will look for and find evidence for why you can never feel love, joy, happiness, and success.
If you think you’re a failure, you will look for and find evidence of what you’ve done wrong, why you’re bad, and how you’re a loser.
If you believe you don’t matter, you will look for and find evidence for why no one cares about you and why your opinion doesn’t matter.
We build cases against ourselves. And no matter how many times we try to throw the cases out, we always seem to default back to our programming.
In today’s episode, Bonnie shares her deeply personal story and shows you how to put your negative core beliefs on the stand, consider the evidence, and find the reasonable doubt you need to set yourself free.
Hi, I’m only 20 minutes in to this show, but I relate with it. there is a 12-step recovery program based on these exact trauma’s: Adult children of alcoholics and other family dysfunction. this is the story of millions of us: abused physically, mentally, spiritually by our family’s of origin. look in to the laundry list traits for some very real messages that most of us, sadly, believe.
Well, this sounds like my life, except my real dad committed suicide when I was 12. I did always feel different from everyone else, at least in my family. Indeed, in the end I was the only one to do the work, and none of them talk to me because I am the black sheep still (which did nothing for my self esteem and that’ loving myself’ thing). But, I bet now I am happier than all of them.
Thank you, both of you (I really hope this “all caps” thing does not post like this =])
So many one-liners in this interview resonated with me, but top of the list would be 1) the hardest thing is to learn to love yourself, and 2) forgiveness is an ongoing process (this one I am STILL doing, again and again and again…)
Thanks so much for these truth-bombs, Bonnie and Sean!
Bonny says something to the effect of “we can’t see all the opportunities that are in front of us because we don’t believe we are worthy of them” when referring to looking for a partner…
I feel the same process of believing in yourself and your worthiness as a person to find a life partner is the same process of finding opportunities to do your “work” in life. Is it the same process though? How do you guide people through this?
Thanks
I love that she says she has a functional relationship with her mother. Sometimes, I think know we feel guilty trying to make people more than they are because, they are family when really it’s ok if we are just functional. I’m like this with my older sister that’s why it resonated with me.