She wanted to lose weight.

This was maybe 7 or 8 years ago, when my health coaching practice was in full swing.

She was my last consultation of the day. A 50-something year old woman in Australia.

We discussed her goals. What she had done to lose weight in the past. What worked. What didn’t.

Turns out she had been trying to lose the same 25 pounds for the last 25 years. 

In fact, she had already worked with at least a dozen health coaches to help her take the pounds off.  Hired. Fired. Hired. Fired. According to her, THEY couldn’t get the job done.

Uh-oh. The “problem client” alarm started ringing in my head.

Nope. Definitely not a good fit. But I wanted to help.

This was right around the time when I’d become aware of Dr. John Demartini and his “values factor.” 

According to Demartini, whenever we set a goal that doesn’t align with our core values, we WILL find a way to sabotage it. Because in the grand scheme of things, accomplishing the goal just isn’t that important.

So I asked our Australian friend a series of questions to help her determine her core values. We came up with something like this:

1. God

2. Travel

3. Family

4. Community
5. Career

I asked her if she noticed anything missing from her hierarchy of values. After about 20 seconds of silence, she exclaimed, “HEALTH!”


You see, when it came to her relationship with God, traveling, her family, community, and career, she got things done. She was inspired from within.

But when it came to her health, she needed external motivation (which never lasts) and she never failed to get in her own way. 

This is what happens when your goals don’t match your values.

What she needed to do was come up with as many ways in which achieving her health goals would support her core values.

How could losing 25 pounds support her relationship with God? Her ability to travel and see the world? Her family? Her community? Her career?

I did this exercise with my Money Mind Academy students a few weeks ago and we had all kinds of breakthroughs. They finally understood why they had continually sabotaged their money goals.

How about you? Are your 2018 goals out of alignment with your core values?

Use this to determine your values.

Today on the QOD Show, Dr. Demartini returns to remind us that if you don’t have a high value on earning, saving, and investing money, you will spend every dime of it on your higher values. It doesn’t matter how much you make, you’ll find a way to get rid of it.

That’s a promise.

Happy Friday!