Harv Eker “Keep Your Word.”

I had a friend.

Let’s say it was a Sunday afternoon and my friend and I made plans to meet up at 1:30 pm to watch the football game…

Being the annoyingly punctual person that I am, I’d plan on arriving around ten minutes early. Just in case there was traffic or a parking sitch.

The game would kick off. Then a full 30-40 minutes would pass, as I sat by myself in a crowded bar awkwardly saving the stool beside me.

“Hey, is anyone sitting here?”

Yeah, my friend will be here in a minute.

“Hey, is anyone sitting here?”

((Sigh))

Yeah, he texted and said he’s on his way.

Then again, he lives five minutes away and his “on my way” text was 20 minutes ago. It’s darn near halftime. He’s still not here.

Eventually, he’d show up. A flustered look on his face. And a long story about whatever emergency had transpired in the last hour. This week’s emergency was even worse than last Sunday’s emergency. Which was worse than the Sunday before.

This pattern of making Sunday plans, sudden emergencies, fictitious “on my way” texts, and barstool-saving awkwardness — among other things — got to a point where I could no longer trust a word that came out of this guy’s mouth.

His word meant nothing.

Needless to say, we’re not friends anymore. Because a friendship without trust isn’t really a friendship.

My experience is not unique. We all know or have known people who seldom do what they say they’ll do, who couldn’t keep their word if their lives depended on it. The ones we lost trust in because they turned out to be “flakes.”

But instead of focusing on them, let’s get a little uncomfortable and take a look at ourselves…

How often do you actually do what you say you’ll do? Are you just as guilty of not keeping your word to yourself? Have you made a commitment to launch the business, make the money, write the book, or lose the weight, and not followed through? Are you flaking on you?

When we don’t keep our word to ourselves, we tend to sweep it under the rug. We don’t seethe at ourselves with the same kind of irritation we might feel when our friends cancel plans or leave us saving a stool in a crowded bar for an hour-plus. Instead, we stuff our feelings away in a place where we can’t feel them.

Yet, behind the scenes our subconscious minds keep a running tally, a list of each and every time we didn’t keep our commitments. The longer the list grows, the less we trust ourselves.

When self-trust is absent, so too is success. You won’t trust your ideas or your ability to create them. You won’t trust yourself to keep showing up, to lead, to do what you say you’ll do.

The long-running historical record of your own words and commitments left unkept reveals a slipperiness at the very center of your being.

You don’t stick to anything.

When this is the case, your word means nothing. To others and to yourself. Your relationship with yourself is broken.

You keep saying that you’re “on your way” to your goals, your dreams, your New Year’s resolutions, but you still haven’t left your comfort zone.

Ouch, I know. It’s as uncomfortable to write as it is to read. Which is probably a sign that it’s time for a lot of us to make our word mean something again.

On today’s episode, Harv Eker discusses the importance of keeping your word so you can rebuild the level of self-trust you’ll need to create an incredible life.

Source: True Wealth