Intimacy was never my thing.
Really, for a long time I didn’t know what the word even meant.
But when I looked at my relationships, I knew something wasn’t right. Something was missing. So I made a decision to get it all figured out.
Before I knew it, I found myself sitting on Matt Sanders’s couch. Learning how to communicate more effectively. How to resolve conflicts with compassion. How to be more … vulnerable.
When I met Matt, the notion of becoming more intimate, vulnerable, and in touch with my feelings ran counter to what I thought it meant to be a man.
The truth is, I’m not the only one. Because let’s be honest, most men aren’t encouraged to express their deepest feelings and emotions.
As children, we’re often scolded for crying.
As adolescents, we’re teased by our peers for sharing our feelings.
And as adults, we wonder why our relationships don’t last. Why they hit a wall. Why they lack the depth we crave. Why there’s no communication.
On this week’s episode of The SC Sessions, Matt Sanders, my own personal therapist, joins me for a fascinating discussion on how intimacy doesn’t diminish a man’s sense of strength, power, and effectiveness. It enhances it.