I was supposed to write this yesterday.
But I woke up with the world’s worst headache. Like one of those kneeling-on-the-floor-in-the-shower kinds of headaches.
Glad that’s over.
What I wanted to write you about was this complex I used to have. At the height of my Underground Wellness “internet fame,” I would get flustered when I met people who knew me from YouTube or the podcast.
I felt like I needed to be “nice” all the time. As if I had to meet everyone’s perfect image and expectation of who I was. And when the other side of me came out — the not-always-so-nice side — I would beat myself up for being such a disappointment.
Damn me for not being perfect, ya know.
I don’t think I’m the only one who’s ever felt that way. I think we all do, to some extent. We try our hardest to disown or hide the parts of ourselves that we don’t like. The parts that we’d rather not have anyone see or know about. Not only to keep from disappointing ourselves, but to avoid being labeled by others as mean, rude, inconsiderate, cruel, or whatever.
However, cutting off parts of ourselves can only lead to an imbalanced existence, where it’s impossible to truly feel whole.
I think one of the best things I’ve ever done in life is accept the FACT that I can be the nicest guy around, but I can also be a real a-hole sometimes.
I’ve also recognized that whatever “negative” trait I see in someone else is something that I also have within myself.
And it’s this very simple realization that has helped me become difficult to offend, reluctant to label, and more at peace with who I am.
With self-acceptance comes other-acceptance. The imperfection I see in another is the imperfection I also have within myself. When I remain aware of this, my buttons are more difficult to push and as a result the not-so-nice parts of me are less inclined to come out.
Dr. Demartini taught me this. It’s one of my life’s greatest lessons. That’s why I was so excited to share this QOD episode with you, until I woke up feeling like someone took a hammer to my prefrontal cortex. It’s a must-listen.
Learn more about Dr. Demartini books, programs and events at drdemartini.com. Today’s episode comes from his audio program, Leave Your Baggage Behind.