I drive a $100K car.
It’s a 2015 Mercedes G550. Also known as a G-Wagon.
Yeah, the one all the Kardashians drive. Just not so blinged out. Yet.
I always wanted a wagon. So when it was in the budget, I drove over to the dealership and got one.
But let me tell you something I found interesting during those first weeks of driving my wagon …
Other drivers weren’t as friendly as they were before.
Things like merging and changing lanes all of a sudden got more challenging. I mean, nothing about my driving had changed. My fellow drivers were just way less cooperative.
And the door dings! Sheesh, I’ve never had so many door dings in my life.
It’s weird. Sometimes I get thumbs-up from random people while stopped at a stop sign. Nice ride, they say! But at the same time, my wagon makes others feel uncomfortable. Not only about it, but about me.
Because according to some people’s belief systems, people with nice things are unhappy. They’re compensating for something they lack. They must have done something illegal to get it. Only douches drive $100K cars.
My response: You don’t know me.
On QOD episode #229, Marianne Williamson reminded us that “someone else’s good doesn’t take away your good.” That when we secretly hate someone for their success, we’re placing ourselves in a place of lack. And when we do that, the subconscious mind believes that we don’t like success. Therefore we can never truly become successful.
So a couple months ago, I posted a pic of me and my wagon on Instagram. In the caption I expressed what my wagon means to me. It had nothing to with douchebaggery or my deep feelings of unhappiness or low-key selling dope.
Here’s what I wrote:
“This is me and my wagon. People always tell me how much they love my wagon and how much they want to have one of their own. I can totally relate. Because there was a time when I really wanted one, but I wasn’t ready to be the kind of person who has it. In order to get the wagon I had to GIVE UP a lot of things. I had to give up my deep fear of criticism and rejection. My belief that money means greed. My resentment of sales and marketing. My fear of failure. My fear of success. My fear of being seen. My reasons for not being successful. I had to give up the idea of who I was in order to become who I knew I could be. To me, my wagon isn’t just another shiny object. It’s a physical representation of my growth as a human being. The realization of a higher level of consciousness within myself and the service I provide to others. What we have will always correspond to who we’ve chosen to be. Give it all up. That’s how you’ll get the wagon and everything else you want. Happy Friday.”
It was the most liked picture I’ve ever posted. For many of my IG followers, it shattered a belief system about “compensatory materialism” and opened up a new way of perceiving the physical representations of success.
There’s nothing wrong with having the things you want. As Jim Rohn said, “if you want to get what you want, you have to help others get what they want.”
Helping others get what they want takes courage, persistence, authenticity, and love. If your service brings financial success, a beautiful home, adventurous travel plans, a $100K car, and a sh*t ton of fulfillment, you don’t owe anyone an apology.
People will think what they think. Very often, the unhappiness and lack they see in you is the unhappiness and lack that they feel within themselves.
You know who you are.
On today’s Finance Friday episode of The Quote of The Day Show, Dan Millman shares his own personal story of how he was able to give up his judgments and overcome his poverty consciousness.
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FYI: Today’s clip comes from The Peaceful Warrior’s Path to Everyday Enlightenment: 12 Gateways to Your Spiritual Growth, available on Audible and or from Nightgale-Conant .